I’ve learned, that when you do something you should always give your best everytime. If people use what you love to tear you down then you don’t need those people around you, and you should continue to do what you love anyway ! Genuine love isn’t about taking shots to hurt someone, and we should all remember that.
Until next time,
Hello ladies and gents ! Today I want to address something that’s been on my mind. I see it happening everyday and ultimately it gets people down, but I want to help. So to start I’ll ask this question has anything or anyone ever tried to make you feel as if you’re not good enough ? And if so how did you handle it? Did you reflect? Did it hurt your self esteem? Or did you do what I hope you did and ask what makes you any better or in better shape than me? I know I asked a lot, but I’m getting somewhere, I promise.
The point is you can’t stop people from judging you, but you can’t let that stop you from seeing all the amazing things you’re capable of. You shouldn’t want to be around anything or anyone that makes you feel inferior. You exist so therefore you matter and you can’t let those that are on their high horses effect your self worth. The truth of the matter is no one is perfect; in fact we’re all quite far from it, but that doeant mean your good qualities are unoticed. Everyone has something to bring to the table and we must make ourselves open to the serving.
Now don’t get me wrong there’s a difference between figuring out that something is not for you and just denying something based on circumstance and appearance. You are a dynamite person and you shouldn’t let others opinions and arrogance turn you into a hermit who hides in their shell. Embrace your differences and if it goes unappreciated or unccepted then remove yourself from that setting ; because they aren’t deserving of all the greatness you have to offer. You’re allowed to know what you want, but it isn’t fair to anyone else being stepped on because they’re not your ideal pedigree. A good heart goes along way and has achieved greatness without a perfect standardized test score, money in the bank, and an entire crowd of faces.
All I’m getting at is that anyone has the power to change, grow, or completely turn around this world we all share. So don’t forget that you are just as special, deserving, and worthy as ANY ONE ELSE! and if anyone else tells you other wise just smile and move along because you have nothing to prove to no one else. So what if they may SEEM, being the key word, in a better place in their life than yours what you have inside of you is fire that is more beautiful than any materialistic achievement. Be unapologetically you ! And in due time the right people will surround you and will continue to do so. Don’t waste your awesomesauce on people that view you as ordinary because ordinary people follow the path out for them to please ordinary people.
You, however are a trailblazer and you make your own paths and move to the beat of your own drum and that, I think, is extraordinary ! It may bother you at first having doors slammed in your face, but that will only lead to more opportunities. Don’t ever think it can’t get better because it can; the more people and things reject you the stronger you become and the more you grow. This summer has taught me a lot about myself and I can tell you even I have plenty to bring to the table. It’s not you’re problem that others can’t quite accept how great you are eventually in time their learn that lesson and in the mean time you’ll learn yours. Always put your best foot forward because when you least expect those that are most deserving will notice EXACTLY how amazing you are and all that comes with you.
“Be not afraid of greatness. Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them”
Youre greater than some may ever give you credit for, and that’s quite alright because you have nothing to prove. So be bigger than your greatest fear and stronger than your biggest opposition. If no one else tells you you’re great; allow me to tell you how amazing you are. You are NOT a waste of space but you are a space well kept and anything is possible. So remember it’s not your job to make those that are on a pedestal see how great you are, but it is your responsibility to KNOW how FANTASTIC you are.
Until next time,
Hello ladies and gents ! So today I decided to write about change and how incredibly necessary it is. I’m sure we all know that change is good, but quite often when it’s time to make that change we can be stubborn to it. It’s scary realizing that who you were or who you want to be at some point required or requires a great change. Whether it’s transferring schools, living on your own for the first time or just putting yourself in a whole new mind set. I want to assure you though change is not the gloomy depressing sentence it use to be; in fact change is highly encouraged.
Life is full of change without us even noticing, but we only notice when it directly effects our own little bubble. Now don’t get me wrong some change isn’t exactly ideal cause there are those that may change for the wrong reasons and may ultimately scare us. Bad change is very manipulative and wants you to believe that all change can be that harmful, but the reality is that it is only the tip of the iceberg. Good change though comes in waves and pushes you to be better than what you are now, and it is this type of change you should aim for. So let’s get into it deeper.
Remember when you were in that awkward puberty phase and you had oily skin and terrible hair days ?( I remember if you don’t). Well change hits you just like puberty and just like that it can be awkwardly and untimely, but once you actually start to embrace it you’ll feel so much better. You gain confidence and realize people will start to view you in a whole new light; whether that be in a mature manner or just plain empowering. You begin to learn things about youself AND those around you creating phases that allow you to think and act on a situational basis. Typically this is the beginning stages of change; we’ll consider this the teen phase.
The Next Phase is the Adolescent phase; you’re no longer a teenager, but you’re definitely not old enough to get into a bar; change in this phase is more emotional. By this point you may have gotten your heart broken a few times and you’re not the low guarded innocent child you once were. Actually this change is the hardest and is something that stays with you;you learn how to think more intensively about the world around you and those you surround yourself with. Now this is a crucial change because you learn how to get rid of those that hinder good change and poison your surrounding. It’s important to learn balance in this phase because you don’t want to be one of those people that emotionally can’t handle change and break down from any new experience.
The last phase is the big boy/girl adult phase. This part of change is more situational. At this point you’ve come into changes, dealt with new emotions, and now your applying it to your full adult life; which if you’re anything like me is hard sometimes. Change is hard in this phase because you’ve established so much while trying to figure out this crazy adult life. However you realize you’re not the same and all the mistakes and heart ache from the past has changed you drastically. It’s in this phase you truly determine if you’re a victim of past scorn or if the changes you’ve made improved you as a person. You no longer make up excuses because of what another had done to you and you go on. You make a lot of decisions as to whether something is worth holding on to or letting go to allow opportunity. Letting go is definitely a hard change to come by, but in order to get what is best for you, its necessary ! Unfortunately this phase of change makes some the most stubborn allowing little to no change to happen. At that point you must either set an example by showing how change could be beneficial to not only self but another or you have to drop dead weight. In reality by the adult phase most don’t want change or seek it because they may feel incapable of it. The thought of stepping outside the box is overwhelming. You can’t force them to change, believe me, so you must press forward, and who knows they may decide to catch up.
In order to grow you have to be open to every opportunity life throws your way. You don’t have to accept everything; that might take quite the adjustment. However just like dating it doesn’t hurt to have options.
Until next time,
Ladies and gents have you’ve ever gone through something that may have aggravated you, made you frustrated?, hurt, angry, sad or just down right inconsolable? Well you’re not alone. In fact you are amongst the greats with this one. In this read I want to encourage you to let go of all that anger, frustration, resentment, sadness or whatever you may feel. No, this doesn’t have to be about anything in specific; it could be a person, situation, people in general, or maybe you’re mad at yourself. Before I get into it though first close your eyes and envision exactly what your problem is, and when you’ve done that breathe and let it go; cause now it is no longer worthy of your thoughts, time, or emotions.
Letting Go: Stop making excuses
So you’ve been thinking, and thinking, and well thinking and all you’ve got to show forth is frustration and confusion. However deep down that small voice within you is ready to move on. You’ve spent more than enough time being upset about this, and it is time for liberation. Will it be easy? HECK NO ! but I have the upmost faith in you that you’ll manage. Letting go of something or someone doesn’t make you weak nor does it make you a bad person; in fact it builds quite the character. In order to let go you must STOP making excuses as to why things may change in an unhealthy situation. One of the hardest lessons I had to learn so far was taking things at face value, and that my dear friends is a real challenge. Stop thinking that hostile living environment will turn into a beach side paradise with no worries or that guy/girl will ever treat you or notice your efforts the way you want them to, cause it’s not going to happen. I know that may seem harsh, but in some situations it is what it is, and we must accept that. So how do you let it go? By realizing you deserve BETTER and that you can have anything you want when you stop making excuses. Emotionally letting go of something really takes its toll on you, and you may grow ice cold, but even ice melts when exposed to fire; so keep the fire within you lit. A lot of times before we realize it’s time to let go we like to prove ourselves wrong; that maybe my perception is just wrong and that in reality things aren’t quite so bad. Now that’s tricky cause sometimes perception does make things change, but that is only when the situation around you is showing promise and willfulness. This means that hostile environment lightened because everyone wanted to change and not just one (you) or that guy/girl shows change in interest that makes it feasible to move forward in a positive way. Acknowledge your worth and challenge yourself to have courage and let the toxins go, cause even weeds disguises themselves as flowers among a beautiful garden.
Wishing Well: Being the bigger person
As if letting go wasn’t hard enough; you have to be the bigger person. You may already be aware but everyone and everything don’t always have your best interest at heart, and this is what causes anger, sadness, etc. Sometimes people or situations are intended to be hurtful to you to either make you open your eyes or just to play on your dignity. However you must be willing to be the bigger person and keep your cool. Of course you might want to punch, kick, and get revenge, but I assure you it won’t help. One must forgive to fully let go. I’ve lost count by how many times people and situations have turned, hurt, or tried to manipulate me; I can assure though each time I’ve came out on top. It wasn’t easy either because each time it was painful and all I wanted to do was make things equally if not more hard for the opposing side, but I didn’t. Not saying I’m perfect, but I am saying Karma is a very real thing and the more positivity you put to the universe the happier you’ll be in return. Common sense, I know and I get it, but view it within your situation and know exactly how hard that can be. So with that said once you’ve let go ; it’s time to wish it all well for them. You start by forgiveness because if you’re bitter after you’ve let something go then you’re allowing things back in you don’t want. So you have to forgive genuinely and whole heartedly. You have a life to live and don’t have time to be angry or sad. After you forgive you hold your head up and walk away. At this point you’ve grown and have realized you deserve better and no longer need to grace this person or situation with your presence. It may seem very on the hight horse but it’s not to say you’re better, but you ARE worthy of things that will make you a better, stronger, and happier person. Understand that genuinely wishing things well leaves not only opportunity to you but for them as well; cause believe it or not even they deserve to be happy even if it’s not with you. One more thing after you’re gone even if they try to hurt you again hold your ground and keep stepping.
Being Happy: Letting new things come your way
Alright champ you’ve let go and wished well so now is the most important step, and that’s for using on your own happiness. Unfortunately people and situations don’t really care how you feel or how you came to feel that way after they’ve done the damage. So just know altering to your own happiness is NoT selfish. Self worth is one of the most powerful human qualities to have. Knowing who you are and loving yours lef for it not only satisfies you internally and externally, but you attract all the right people and opportunities. Knowing that you are unique in everyway makes it challenging for those weeds to ruin all the hard work you’ve put into your garden, and trust me they’ll try. Some will go as far as to convince you they are a friend when really they’re just poison, and you cannot fall for that. Being happy with yourself allows you to not only move on but also forgive yourself from any wrongs that you may have done; that’s right you’re not innocent either. No ones perfect so more than likely you’ve broken a few hearts, had a misunderstanding with a friend that may have hurt themselves, or you were just plain mean at one point. Being happy with yourself means acknowledging your faults to be better for not only you but those around you. Also just because you’ve gotten dirty in your life doesn’t mean you don’t deserve a chance to clean up. I strongly believe that when you’ve truly has a change of heart and is willing to accept your TRUE potential good things happen. Be patient with yourself and learn your lesson. Whatever you do be open to the new things that come your way. Change can be scary, exciting, or both but either way open yourself up to new things. You may not have gotten your beach house but you did gain a space that liberates your peace of mind, and things between you and whoever may not have gone as you planned, but maybe the next will be all you ever wanted and more; even if part of you may always be apart of another. Be unapologetically you and be happy. It’s not your job to make certain opportunities or people see how amazing you are, but it is yours to know for for yourself !
“To love everyone unconditionally does not mean to give everyone your unconditional time. Sometimes, to love completely, we must never see someone again. This, too, is love. This is giving someone the freedom to exist and be happy, even if it must be without you.” ― Vironika Tugale
Until next time,
Simple Pleasure #352 Progress
Progress is Progress no matter how big or small. For every step you take is a symbol of your unstoppable strength. The journey of a 1000 miles start with you; so don’t measure your progress by another’s.😊✨👍
Until next time,
P.s: This is no ordinary house; it is one of the many house being rebuilt from the destruction of Katrina. In life there will be many storms, but where there is destruction comes new things.